Parenting cleft born children through a trauma informed lens
Parenting a child with a cleft is an incredible gift. However, it can also be very challenging at times, emotionally, physically, energetically and spiritually. It is a journey, only truly understood by those on it.
As parents, we are the ones on the front line; in the middle of the night, whilst waiting to speak to the hospital or any agency, when the situations occur that require the immediate response which we are so frequently ill equipped to deliver, because we have never been taught this stuff.
This bespoke group coaching course is shaped entirely around being a cleft parent and will support you to navigate all the challenges and experiences this entails; from diagnosis to teen.
Confidence, Compassion and Connection
Cleft Confidence will help you:
understand why you feel the way you do – and what you can do about it
learn what trauma is and how it can present for us and our children along the cleft journey
get the support and knowledge you need to navigate your experience as a cleft parent: from diagnosis to parenting teenagers, from surgery to social media
create more resilient and authentic connection with yourself and your children
let go of any judgement, shame and guilt
lean into compassion, kindness and connection
experience more positive emotions for longer, a better mental state and emotional stability, and nervous system flexibility to be able to respond not react
gain inner confidence and trust in your parenting
shift your reality from fear based reactive living to empowered, connected awareness
Cleft children are cycle breakers. Parenting cycle breakers is challenging. They will not fit the mould you may have perceived your parenting journey to look like. They don't from the start right?
Does this sound familiar?
You find yourself living in the future and/or past and often catch yourself fearful or worried for your child
You are frustrated by the lack of understanding from those around you about your fears and concerns for your baby, child or teen
You feel disconnected and don’t quite know how you got there
You may feel quite alone and don’t go out as often as you used to, with or without your baby/child
You may not want to be parenting how you are, and know something is out of alignment but don’t know how to change it
You may feel shame and guilt towards yourself for your perceived inability to hold it all together and get through
You may feel envious of friends, who seem to have an easier parenting journey
Comparison and overwhelmed may have become your go to
Things can be different and you already have everything you need inside of you to live with more ease, even when there are the inevitable challenges of the cleft journey around you.
TRAUMA INFORMED
The awareness I will teach inside this program will guide you to live and parent through a trauma informed lens.
This means that you will be given the opportunity to reflect and begin to see yourself differently.
In turn you will be able to deeply understand yourself, your thoughts and your behaviours so that you can parent from an empowering place and to enable your beautiful children to become all it is they come here to be.
CLEFT CONFIDENCE
A 6 week Group Coaching program focussing on the cleft parenting journey through an Integrated Trauma informed lens.
Those who attend will experience the following and more:
Weekly live teachings from me - each week we will learn another aspect of cleft parenting through a trauma informed lens
A private space to consider and reflect on the weekly teachings and learnings with me and the other women inside
A deeper understanding of what trauma actually is, and how it shows itself on the cleft parenting journey
A clarity on how trauma may present in our children and what we can do about it in real time, if needed
New insight on yourself and your family dynamic and how you can begin to lead your family to a more fulfilling and joyful existence with less fear and more connection.
Hi! I'm Katie,
I am an Integrated Trauma Informed coach, Brainspotting practioner, creative teacher, Reiki Level 2 practitioner, Energy Alignment Method Trainee mentor and Artist and I am mum to three beautiful humans, the first of whom was born with a bilateral cleft lip and palate.
When I received our cleft diagnosis, I went to bed for three days. I couldn’t talk to anyone without crying and really struggled to understand my feelings; the fear, the guilt, the grief and the emotional responses were overwhelming. I coped, I got through it, my daughter did too, our family grew, however these feelings would resurface, intermittently, because with cleft there is always the next thing. We accessed the support that was available at the time however, things never really shifted, I seemed to be stuck in a loop; which ultimately impacted how I was able to show up for and support my family and my daughter.
I subconsciously projected my fear onto her, it hid itself in overprotective behaviours, high expectations, comparison and negative self talk to name a few and ultimately had an impact on her ability to grow and thrive. Once I had this awareness I studied and read and became hungry to understand the what, why and how of all aspects of this specific parenting experience. Ultimately this led me to train as an Integrated Trauma Informed Coach, through the Caroline Strawson school of post traumatic growth.
My daughter is well into her teens now and I am so proud of her and how she is evolving into an incredible young woman. When she turned 12 is when I knew I needed something to change. I knew it was me. I knew something was very misaligned for how I was showing up for my family and my daughter. That is the thing, cleft can be a lifelong complex influence for some, there are quieter periods for sure, but they do not last forever.
As parents of these incredible children we are invited to step up, into the truest versions of ourselves. We have to be the safe space for them to learn to self regulate and thrive whilst finding their own way in life. For cleft born children this is more complex and I believe it begins in utero.
My experiences through parenting my eldest have incited life changing growth, learning and understanding. This is why I have created this course; to teach and share with those on the same path who feel called to do this work, which will ultimately help them to show up as the most connected and authentic parents, every day. Connected, authentic and aligned parenting is invaluable when we are guiding facially different children into a selfie society.
This work and the things I will teach have changed my life in the most incredible ways and most importantly my daughters and our entire family. I now want to use my experiences and learning to positively impact the lives of others, enabling them to raise connected, resilient and independent, happy children.
It is all about parenting from a trauma informed lens specific to the cleft experience, for us, our children and our family units. This programme brings awareness to root cause resolution.
What you will learn
Here’s what you’ll learn over our 6 weeks together:
- What trauma is and what it isn’t, why it is important for us parenting children with cleft to be trauma informed
- How trauma shows up on the cleft parenting journey for us and our cleft affected children and what we can do about it
- How our brains and our nervous systems impact our thoughts, feelings and behaviours and why this happens
- How to recognise and monitor your body's communication to bring conscious awareness, enabling you to respond to the challenges of cleft parenting from an empowered state; responding not reacting
- Knowledge and understanding which will shed light on your personal parenting journey, by default supporting your other children and your partner or extended family members from a trauma informed lens
- Guidance and tools to support you and your child from surgery implications to social media fears, giving you invaluable confidence to access your inner wisdom moving forwards
How does the course work?
- Weekly workbooks covering each of the 6 topics
- Weekly teaching calls in Zoom
- Everything is recorded
- Lifetime access to the course
- Private Facebook Group
Live ZOOM calls weekly, starting in October 2023
Your Investment
Which works best for you?
Enrolment for the below course is now closed.
Cleft Confidence 2023 Pay in Full
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750.00 GBP
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Cleft Confidence 2023 - 3 Payments
Pay with 3 monthly payments
280.00 GBP / month
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This course is for you if you are a cleft mum and: |
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| You are happy to learn alongside others |
| You are committed to your personal growth and awareness |
| You are ready to be open to seeing things differently |
| You are prepared to take radical responsibility for how you parent and show up everyday for yourself and your family |
Frequently Asked Questions:
What's the workload like?
This is entirely up to you. Workbooks are there for you to follow and you can go at your own pace. Just by being in the space you will benefit.
How much time will I need to dedicate to this programme?
Attend the live calls when you can, the recordings when you can’t, these will be approx. 60 mins - but may run over if needed. Try and follow the program sequentially as the sessions are designed to follow on from one another. You will be sent all information sequentially. If you wish to do more than watch the calls you can use the workbooks to support your process as and when you want to. This is completely down to your discretion.
Will you be running this programme/course again?
I am planning to run the course again in June 2023.
When does the cart close?
Cart closes 13th February 2023.
Do I need to attend the calls live?
No, but it will benefit you more if you can. As there will be opportunities for discussion at the end of the calls.
How can I contact you if I need extra support?
You can access extra support from me through the private Facebook group.
What's your refund policy?
There are no refunds.
What equipment/books/resources do I need?
Nothing, just yourself, you can of course work through the books with a pen/pencil after the calls if you wish to process further.
Got a question I haven't answered anywhere ?
Book a chat below or email me over at katie@katiemanning.co.uk and I'll be happy to answer it!
