Luckily for you, you know that you don't have to stay stuck repeating patterns that aren’t working for you.
You know that things go best with your partner when you feel your best.
You understand that your mindset and your actions are within your control, and impact everything.
You know that you chose the right person to raise your children with.
And you know that you’re capable of having a fantastic relationship.
But it's not always easy, is it?
I know how frustrating it is when you can't quite work out what you need to be the happy, relaxed person you were when you fell in love.
I know how lost you feel, trying to work out how to get that happy family life, without feeling like it all falls to you.
You know you can’t go back to how things were before you had kids.
But you’re not sure how to find your way forwards, to the deeper understanding and connection you crave.
You don’t know how to make it happen… yet.
Maybe you've read the books, listened to podcasts, are following therapists on social media….?
You’ve probably tried talking about how to make things better…?
Perhaps you’ve agreed to make more effort, maybe have more date nights…?
Sometimes you feel really optimistic - things are good between you!
But then you have another setback and you feel hopeless again, like maybe things will never really change for good…
It doesn’t matter how many long talks you and your partner have, because neither of you knows the secrets of deep, lasting connection.
You need a properly transformational experience. One that supports you to understand who you really are. To know what you need. And to feel confident about how to share it all with your partner, in ways which bring you closer.
When you start to change, your relationship will change too.
You'll release old habits and versions of yourself that don’t bring out the best in your partner.
You can finally become the relaxed, happy partner and parent you always imagined you would be.
I’m a BACP accredited therapist and coach, a partner of 19 years and a mum of 12 years.
I’ve been a stay-at-home mum, a part-time working mum, and a self-employed, work-whenever-I-get-the-chance mum.
And now, I’m the UK’s leading expert in relationships after kids.
This coaching program is the culmination of everything I’ve learned in 20 years of personal therapy and 10 years as a professional therapist.
During that time I have transformed from someone who was anxious, confused, and overwhelmed by her emotions, to knowing myself and my values so well that I move through feelings with ease.
I have gone from perfectionism and shame, to showing up authentically.
My relationship has gone from a battleground at times, to a source of deep comfort and support to both me and my husband.
I know how to get the best out of myself.
I know how to get the best out of my partner.
And as a therapist and coach, I know how to get the best out of you.
I know that it’s when we feel held and understood that we are able to challenge ourselves, learn and grow.
I'm ready to teach you everything I’ve learned about relationships after kids, and how to have a happy family life.
It includes all the best parts from my experience as a therapist, a client, a wife, a mum, a writer, a speaker, and a human being.
Relationships are made up up of the habits and patterns we co-create… good ones and bad ones.
I can teach you how to break the patterns that annoy and upset you.
And replace them with much more satisfying patterns, which bring you closer, and make you both happier.
18x Bitesize Love Happy Live Free Video Content
You'll learn everything you need to know about how happy, healthy relationships work, and how you can make yours work for you. All broken up into concise, bitesize lessons you can easily fit into your week.
Email Support
You'll be welcome to ask questions about anything and everything as you make the most of your opportunity to consult your personal relationship expert.
121 Coaching Calls
Halfway through the program you'll have a 121 with Catherine to deepen your understanding and support your transformation.
Personal Growth Toolkit
Weekly tasks will support you on your self-development journey. Because when you grow, your relationship will evolve.
Closing 121 Session
Once you have completed the program, you'll have a final 121 with Catherine to celebrate your achievements and ensure you have everything you need for your new life together.
Lifetime Access To Content
Easy, lifetime access to all content through your members-only online portal.
Module 1: You Have The Power - How To Get The Relationship You Want
You have SO MUCH power to create the relationship and the life of your dreams. Why does it seem so hard to just be happy together?! I'll teach you how to overcome those hurdles, and start giving and receiving in balance.
Module 2: How To Understand Your Feelings And Know Exactly What You Need
Do your emotions seem to cause nothing but trouble in your relationship? I’m going to teach you how to relate to your feelings in a relaxed, balanced way, so you don’t get overwhelmed by them, OR feel like you need to suppress them. Plus we’ll look at who you are and what you really value. These two parts will come together to give you a clearer sense of what YOU need to be happier than you ever have before.
Module 3: Why Do They Do That?! Understanding Your Partner And Loving Your Differences
Do you ever feel like you and your partner are just so different, maybe you’re not compatible? I’ve been there! And I'm really to show you how to do a complete reframe, so you can really feel all the amazing benefits of those differences. Plus we’re going to get really clear about what a truly healthy relationship looks like, so you can feel confident you're modelling the best love possible for your kids.
Module 4: From Vicious Cycles To Virtuous Ones That Bring You Ever Closer
Struggle with defensiveness? Your partner jumping to trying to fix things when you just want them to listen and understand? It’s time to break the patterns that aren’t serving you, and learn how to get closer instead. Let’s replace them with strategies that get you deep understanding, empathy, and mutual support.
Module 5: Clear, Calm Communication That Everyone Loves
No more putting up with things until you blow! It’s time to learn how to express yourself clearly, so you can get more of what you want and need, and less of what you don’t. AND your partner will get more of what they want too, as your communication improves and your connection deepens.
Module 6: Going Deeper And Thinking Bigger
These six modules are the springboard to your new life. A life where you’re happier, more confident, and more relaxed. Let’s think about how you can enjoy a deep and lasting closeness with your partner for many years to come. What do you need to live your dream life? It’s time to start making it your reality.
BONUS 1:
Parenting As A Team Masterclass
Do you fall out over parenting approaches? In this masterclass you'll learn how to communicate more effectively, get to the bottom of what your differences really mean, find common ground, and compromise.
BONUS 2:
Managing Conflict Mini Course
All couples have disagreements. In fact they're healthy and can be very fruitful! Learn the skills to keep yours calm and productive with this bonus mini course.
BONUS 3:
Guide To Resolving Arguments
Do you struggle to move on from fights? Learn to repair your connection and actually feel closer for it with this bonus 10-page guide.
BONUS 4:
Self-Esteem And Confidence Workbook
Living your best life starts with your relationship with yourself. Learn the secrets to truly believing in yourself with this 48-page bonus workbook.
BONUS 5:
The Love Happy Live Free Weekly Planner PDF x7
Your new life will be built on daily habits that get results. Stay on track with ease with your Love Happy Life Free printable weekly planner.
The Assessment
Are you wondering whether you need couples counselling or relationship coaching?
Here's how to find out...
Firstly, Catherine will send you the Insight & Connection Therapy Or Coaching Questionnaire. This has been carefully designed to support you to reflect on what’s going on in your relationship and what you want to change.
This will give Catherine a clearer picture of how she can help you, and she’ll take some time to reflect on whether therapy or coaching will best meet your needs.
Then you'll meet Catherine (in person or on Zoom) for a 50-minute session to discuss your questionnaires and the best way forwards for you.
Couples assessment: £320
Individual assessment: £200
Love Happy Live Free
If relationship coaching is the best option for you, you can get started with Love Happy Live Free right away.
This includes:
Couples experience: £880 (or 4x monthly payments £242)
Individual experience: £660 (or 4x monthly payments £182)
Relationship Therapy
Relationship coaching is not the best option for everyone, at least not at first.
If couples counselling will be more suitable for your needs, sessions are available on Tuesdays and Thursdays between 9:30am and 2pm. (Or Catherine can recommend a trusted colleague.)
Couples counselling: £120 per 50-minute session
Individual counselling: £90 per 50-minute session
QUESTION: Do I need to get my partner on board?
Not unless you want to! Love Happy Live Free is for YOU. Most people complete the program on their own. Some people do it as a couple. How much you include your partner in the process is entirely up to you. This course is all about how YOU can create the relationship of your dreams. When you change how you do things, your relationship will change.
QUESTION: What's the time commitment?
This coaching program has been designed to fit in around family life, while motivating you to keep your commitment to transform your relationship.
The course comprises 6 modules made up of 3 bitesize (10-15m) videos each.
Your 121 coaching session(s) must be completed within 2 months of you starting the program, and your closing session must be completed within 4 months.
Previous participants have completed the program within 6-12 weeks.
Part of the aim of this course is to support you to find more pockets of time for yourself and your relationship.
QUESTION: Is there a payment plan?
Yes! Pay in 4 easy instalments and access the full experience immediately.
QUESTION: What if life gets in the way and I get behind or struggle complete the program?
You’ll have lifetime access to the material, so if you get behind, you’ll be able to catch up in your own time.
Once the program is complete, you’ll be able to access the content in the members portal any time. So whenever you need a refresh of anything we’ve covered, it will all be there for you.
QUESTION: Is there 121 support with Catherine?
Yes! Firstly, your assessment includes a 121 with Catherine.
Then Love Happy Live Free includes:
QUESTION: What is the theoretical orientation of this course?
Catherine Topham Sly is a BACP accredited integrative therapist. This means she has trained in a variety of psychological approaches.
The lessons on this course draw from various models, including:
If none of that means anything to you, don’t worry! Catherine’s superpower is explaining ideas developed by psychologists in straightforward, practical, useful ways. You’ll know exactly what you need to do and how to do it, without the need for any other training.
Got more questions? Email catherine @ insightconnection.uk